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This unfortunatly, is untrue. Every woman is different some are short some are very tall some are slim and some are curvy, so naturally not all dresses can look good on all types.
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Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Bad Bridesmaids Dresses
This unfortunatly, is untrue. Every woman is different some are short some are very tall some are slim and some are curvy, so naturally not all dresses can look good on all types.
Friday, January 25, 2013
Haute Couture or Hot Mess?
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What does that even mean?
Wikipedia says:
Haute Couture : French pronunciation: [ot ku'tyʁ]; French for "high sewing" or "high dressmaking" or "high fashion") refers to the creation of exclusive custom-fitted clothing. Haute couture is made to order for a specific customer, and it is usually made from high-quality, expensive fabric and sewn with extreme attention to detail and finished by the most experienced and capable seamstresses, often using time-consuming, hand-executed techniques. "Couture" means dressmaking, sewing, or needlework[1] and is also used as a common abbreviation of haute couture and refers to the same thing in spirit.[2] "Haute" means elegant or high. An haute couture garment is made specifically for the wearer’s measurements and body stance.[1]
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Here are some Couture wedding dresses for the spring 2013 collection. Honestly, from someone who's been in the bridal business for 5 years, I don't like a single one of them. I never have. The designers always try to do something crazy and create a new trend, it seems. Most of the time, they never sell and brides get that look on their face like they smell rotten corn chowder when they see them, and they are waaaaaaay expensive. I have 2 couture dresses in my discount bridal shop and even at $400 no one wants them... tell me what you think?
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Friday, January 18, 2013
Dear Budget Bride
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So why then are the dresses at my shop $300 and $800 at the other place? Style. Most discount shops do not have the most current dresses, and may not even be in the best condition. Everything I have is at least 2 years old. You will not find an all over lace dress with a stunning key hole back at my store. Nor will you find the Queen Ann neckline that's becoming so adored for $500. I'm sorry honey, it just doesn't exist. I've chosen this topic because I had a bride in my store today that asked for just that. This happens more than I'd like to admit. An excited bride comes in she's heard that all my dresses are under $700 and just my luck her budget is $500, I've got her dress right? Wrong. She then states, I want an all over lace dress, trumpet style with little beading, size 6 please nothing over five hundred. She rattles it off like she's ordering a cheese burger expecting me to back in a snap with exactly what she wants for that price. I told her, "I'm sorry I have one lace dress in the store at its $699." She looked at me like I slapped her mother. And when I showed her the dress she looked at me like she wanted to slap me! She hated it! I mean, if she could have vomited at that moment she would have. The dress was 2 years old, and it its prime cost $1,200. But now it might as well have been a trash bag in her opinion. Then she whipped out her hot pink iPhone and started moving her turquoise painted thumbnail frantically across it, flipped the phone around and presented it to me. I saw this beautiful lace dress by Allure bridals from the spring collection. "Yes I know that dress, our other store carries it, its from the spring season wont come in till march." "My wedding is in March, how much is it?" I went to the back and checked the price list, the dress is $1,600. "When I told her, I thought she'd break down and cry in the middle of my store. "Do you have anything like it at all in my price range?" I had to be honest with her "No." Lace has suddenly become incredibly popular, and last summer I sold every last one of my lace dresses. It's become a look people have to have. The designers know it so they charge more. I told her if she had any wriggle room in her budget say about three or 4 more hundred dollars we could probably find something for her, she told me she could not go over budget. In fact, her parents wanted her to stay more around three hundred she confessed. I felt terrible for her. I really wished I could have done something more. I asked her what else she liked if she had seen any other dresses she might consider, not made of lace. As she described to me her other desires I started pointing out dresses that fit that budget, she tried on two, disappointed in each, and left. I told her I'd keep an eye out for her and call her if something in her size and style came up she'd be the first I'd contact. This is the only thing I find frustrating about being a Bridal Consultant. The bride has unrealistic expectations for her dress, and refuses to bend on price or what she wants. If you or someone you know is looking for a wedding gown, please please, know what your budget is for the dress and how much something like that will cost. You don't have to try a dress on to know for sure, you can do a pre-shop. Walk into a store and see what they have and if what you like fits your budget, make an appointment to try those styles on, if not, you may have to re-consider one or the other. Last piece of advice: Don't buy online unless you know they are an authorized retailer of that designer! Many websites offer the top designer brands at way low prices, remember, if it looks too good to be true, it probably is. You might be happy with only paying a couple hundred dollars, but you will not be happy with the counterfeit result!
Monday, January 14, 2013
About Me
Okay, so about me. Suzie, the Bridal Consultant who hates weddings. Right off I feel I need to clarify a few things about why I chose that name for this blog. I am a Bridal Consultant. "What is that?", you ask... That means I work at a local bridal shop and assist women in picking out the most perfect white (or ivory) wedding dress of their dreams, for their most perfect day to start their most perfect life with the most perfect man (or woman) they've ever met. Basically I ask them what they want and zip the dress up. Please don't be deterred by my sarcastic tones, I love my job. I actually love wedding dresses. I really love brides and helping them find that most perfect dream dress. I love flowers, I love cake, I love giving gifts like electric knives to the starry eyed bride and groom. And despite my sarcasm and bitterness that will rear its head from time to time in my blogs I really do love romance. And yes, I do watch Say Yes to the Dress, and no people really don't act like that. And I am a huge advocate for marriage and family. I just hate weddings. First of all, they are ridiculously expensive, especially if you are "going all out". "Going all out" means you do everything. A beautiful and large venue, like a hotel or old church in the country converted into a reception hall. You will have a D.J., a photographer, caterer, cake decorator, florist, tuxedos for every single man you know, brides maids dresses, mother of the bride dress, mother of the groom dress, flower girl dresses, officiator, marriage license, wedding planner and decorator. All this will set you back about $20,000 and thats cheap. Not to mention the wedding dress, which is at the average price of $1,300, currently.
And despite all your planning, and spending and that binder filled with pictures and magazine clippings and the movie playing in your mind of how everything should and will be, it wont. Hate to burst your bubble sweetheart, but your wedding will not be perfect. You will find something wrong or out of place and someone to blame for it. You will get angry because it did not go your way, you may cry, you may find yourself screaming on the best man's cell phone at a perfect stranger yelling "I asked for mint green tablecloths, and you sent me sage... SAGE!" And while your mascara is running and your maid of honor is trying to console you, you find the D.J is late, you paid him an extra $40 to show up an hour early so he could get set up before the guests arrive in a half hour. You're stressed there aren't enough flowers, this venue is bigger that you remembered, there should be more flowers here, people wont be impressed if there arent enough flowers, can you get more flowers? How much do you have to pay to get more flowers...
STRESS!!!!
And for what? It is only ONE day. This is why I hate weddings. You (and by you I mean the bride) stresses and stresses for months about all these tiny details, and the day comes and its not all you dreamed and your upset. And it's over and you can't do anything about it... maybe you can get some money back, if someone really did drop the ball, like a wedding singer showing up drunk. It can't be perfect, life isn't perfect, people aren't perfect, YOU aren't perfect, and your marriage most certainly wont be perfect.
Why do women stress so much over their wedding day? Well, not ALL women do. I have met hudereds of brides over the last 4 years as a consultant and everyone is different. MOST do stress about those tiny details, but not all. Let me tell you a little something about me, I never like to generalize, I think its' a stupid person's escape. Everyone is different and everyone handles stress differently. I have met brides who had everything fall apart on their wedding day and smiled and laughed through it all because they were happy they were getting married to the person they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with. But why DO most women stress so much over these things?
I think its because for some women, it represents a pivotal peak in their lives. Like winning an olympic gold medal, or a pulitzer. It starts when we're young, we are conditioned to believe, even in today's world, that men have careers and women have a husband and kids. Everything before that is just a prep course.
Learn to dance, sing, be beautiful and skinny, smart (but not too smart) always be agreeable and kind, walk in high heels, smell good, flirt (but not too much) and you'll land that perfect man and he will be handsome and rich and he will ask you to marry him. Your wedding day is like Graduation day, you finally made it, you're here, you're a woman now, you've reached your goal. It feels like, to this type of woman, that your climbing a mountain and the wedding is top, then, its all down hill from there. No more dating, men will stop chasing you, no reason to look good for anyone anymore, no more prep courses. And its all over. So this is your last day to shine. Your last day to step out and say "hey world I am here and I am awesome! Come admire me!" So yeah, it must be perfect. Men don't have this problem because they play football and score touch downs, they start a career and get promoted, become head of the math club or whatever.
Men are expected to and have the opportunity to have their shining moment more times than women do. Once again, this is just for most not all men and women. I know there are many women athletes and CEO's who's wedding was not the crowning glory of their lives. But, for the women who've never gotten the lead role, won the race or became head of the board, this is her one moment to shine. So it better be perfect. I hate going to weddings them because that's the feeling I get when I go. If I don't compliment her on how great everything is, she'll hate me and herself for not making it great. Plus, I hate small talk. I want to get right down to what's real. Like "How soon are you going to have kids? Who's going to be the financial planner in this marriage? Do you like his parents? Do you like HER parents? Would divorce each other if one of you was unfaithful or stay together for the kids...?" But I'm socially awkward that way.
I've been invited to many weddings, as a Bridal Consultant I get asked all the time. I always come up with an excuse "I have to work that day..." That's actually true, most weddings are on Saturdays and in the wedding business you will work every saturday. I've been to 10 weddings in my life, and was a brides maid in 2. Being apart of a "line" is not fun, you stand there and greet a bunch of people you don't know in a dress you don't like for a friend or relative you love. Slipping in and out for some cake and dropping off a present is far better. After all that stress and fuss and spending, your wedding should be what others expect, "nice". And it will be just that. No one will notice, or care, or remember anything about your wedding other than the cake was too try and the fish to salty. But mostly they will think your wedding was just "nice", and that's ok.
So, if anyone is reading this, please expect less talk about my distaste for weddings, and a bit more about wedding dresses. I plan to write about up coming trends in the wedding biz and maybe a funny story or two. Enjoy!
And despite all your planning, and spending and that binder filled with pictures and magazine clippings and the movie playing in your mind of how everything should and will be, it wont. Hate to burst your bubble sweetheart, but your wedding will not be perfect. You will find something wrong or out of place and someone to blame for it. You will get angry because it did not go your way, you may cry, you may find yourself screaming on the best man's cell phone at a perfect stranger yelling "I asked for mint green tablecloths, and you sent me sage... SAGE!" And while your mascara is running and your maid of honor is trying to console you, you find the D.J is late, you paid him an extra $40 to show up an hour early so he could get set up before the guests arrive in a half hour. You're stressed there aren't enough flowers, this venue is bigger that you remembered, there should be more flowers here, people wont be impressed if there arent enough flowers, can you get more flowers? How much do you have to pay to get more flowers...
STRESS!!!!
And for what? It is only ONE day. This is why I hate weddings. You (and by you I mean the bride) stresses and stresses for months about all these tiny details, and the day comes and its not all you dreamed and your upset. And it's over and you can't do anything about it... maybe you can get some money back, if someone really did drop the ball, like a wedding singer showing up drunk. It can't be perfect, life isn't perfect, people aren't perfect, YOU aren't perfect, and your marriage most certainly wont be perfect.
Why do women stress so much over their wedding day? Well, not ALL women do. I have met hudereds of brides over the last 4 years as a consultant and everyone is different. MOST do stress about those tiny details, but not all. Let me tell you a little something about me, I never like to generalize, I think its' a stupid person's escape. Everyone is different and everyone handles stress differently. I have met brides who had everything fall apart on their wedding day and smiled and laughed through it all because they were happy they were getting married to the person they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with. But why DO most women stress so much over these things?
I think its because for some women, it represents a pivotal peak in their lives. Like winning an olympic gold medal, or a pulitzer. It starts when we're young, we are conditioned to believe, even in today's world, that men have careers and women have a husband and kids. Everything before that is just a prep course.
Learn to dance, sing, be beautiful and skinny, smart (but not too smart) always be agreeable and kind, walk in high heels, smell good, flirt (but not too much) and you'll land that perfect man and he will be handsome and rich and he will ask you to marry him. Your wedding day is like Graduation day, you finally made it, you're here, you're a woman now, you've reached your goal. It feels like, to this type of woman, that your climbing a mountain and the wedding is top, then, its all down hill from there. No more dating, men will stop chasing you, no reason to look good for anyone anymore, no more prep courses. And its all over. So this is your last day to shine. Your last day to step out and say "hey world I am here and I am awesome! Come admire me!" So yeah, it must be perfect. Men don't have this problem because they play football and score touch downs, they start a career and get promoted, become head of the math club or whatever.
Men are expected to and have the opportunity to have their shining moment more times than women do. Once again, this is just for most not all men and women. I know there are many women athletes and CEO's who's wedding was not the crowning glory of their lives. But, for the women who've never gotten the lead role, won the race or became head of the board, this is her one moment to shine. So it better be perfect. I hate going to weddings them because that's the feeling I get when I go. If I don't compliment her on how great everything is, she'll hate me and herself for not making it great. Plus, I hate small talk. I want to get right down to what's real. Like "How soon are you going to have kids? Who's going to be the financial planner in this marriage? Do you like his parents? Do you like HER parents? Would divorce each other if one of you was unfaithful or stay together for the kids...?" But I'm socially awkward that way.
I've been invited to many weddings, as a Bridal Consultant I get asked all the time. I always come up with an excuse "I have to work that day..." That's actually true, most weddings are on Saturdays and in the wedding business you will work every saturday. I've been to 10 weddings in my life, and was a brides maid in 2. Being apart of a "line" is not fun, you stand there and greet a bunch of people you don't know in a dress you don't like for a friend or relative you love. Slipping in and out for some cake and dropping off a present is far better. After all that stress and fuss and spending, your wedding should be what others expect, "nice". And it will be just that. No one will notice, or care, or remember anything about your wedding other than the cake was too try and the fish to salty. But mostly they will think your wedding was just "nice", and that's ok.
So, if anyone is reading this, please expect less talk about my distaste for weddings, and a bit more about wedding dresses. I plan to write about up coming trends in the wedding biz and maybe a funny story or two. Enjoy!
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